We Are Never Getting Back Together

Losing a friend is never easy. Each loss feels different, hurts different. There are tons of reasons why it happens. One person moves away and you just lose touch. Or, the two let drama get in between their relationship. It could be that you just grow apart. There’s no one way to lose a friend.

I've learned that not everyone stays. Sometimes the people you think are going to be in your life forever just leave. All you're left with is the ghost of your friendship.

But, just because a friend is lost does not mean an enemy is gained.

We have a culture that lends us to believe that myth. That no longer being friends means opposition. It means that it is me versus you. Or, that we are enemies. I challenge that myth and go even further to say that this is the mentality of a child

By no means am I saying that you must accept toxicity in your life. I’m not saying you should hold on to stale friendships either.

My point is this... we don’t have to be evil. We don’t have to hate each other. We don’t have to go tit for tat. So, let’s stop doing it. Stop exposing each other on our social media stories or spreading awful stories about people we used to call friend.

I have experienced my far share of friendship "break-ups". A lot of them ended with bad behavior that did not need to happen. To some extent, I take responsibility. But I refuse to lose more friends just to acquire more enemies. To every friend that I have lost, I don’t hate you. In fact, I pray that one day we can get to the point where we can meet again and move past whatever broke us up in the first place because it can happen.

I love you all, even if we never ever ever get back together.